Curate Your Social Circle

I once had a friend who could convince me the world was going to pieces just by the way he said hello. Each time I tried to get him to look at life in a more positive light he'd say, "I'm just being realistic." What bummed me out most about his take on the world was I saw extraordinary potential in him to do great things.

The truth is, some of the people closest to us will only see the downside of up or have an axe to grind. And it's just not realistic to cut them out of our lives completely. But what we can do is level up the number of positive, ambitious, and inspiring people we spend most of our time with. 

In Brendon Burchard's new book, High Performance Habits he discusses the benefits of surrounding yourself with a community of like-minded people who support your vision, have your back, and will encourage you to hold yourself accountable to making something happen. It turns out there's actual data that supports the notion our lives will eventually reflect the people we spend the most time with.

The people around you affect how much you sleep, the food that you eat, and how much money you spend or save. This dynamic, which has been dubbed "social contagion," has been show to have both detriments and benefits.

On the negative front, researchers have found that bad behaviors and outcomes such as smoking, obesity, loneliness, depression, divorce, and drug use tend to grow in social clusters. If your friends smoke, you probably will, too. The more of your friends who are overweight or divorced, the higher the odds you'll get there, too.

Likewise, positive things such as happiness and prosocial behavior also seem to spread within social groups. For example, if you have a friend who is happy in life, your chances of feeling happy go up by 25 percent. 

It's important we choose our brain trust wisely and actively look for people who make us better. The key is to believe you can get better with the right effort and community behind you. 

A Few Tips on Getting More / Better Sleep

Don't think sleep is important? Think again. Not only does getting the proper amount of sleep (at least 7 - 8 hours a night) increase productivity and concentration but a lack of rest can affect your metabolism, increase your risk of diabetes, and contribute to depression. 

As someone who once prided himself on bulldozing through the day on just a few hours of sleep, I've finally come to the realization that you don't lose time when you sleep. You actually gain it back in the increased productivity. Here a few quick tips on changing your sleeping habits.

1. Make the room you sleep in a "No Screens Zone." Get a $5 alarm clock if you use your phone to get you up in the morning. Laptops, smart phones, and anything that glows goes in another room so you can both avoid temptation (remember it's easier to avoid distraction than to resist it) and calm yourself before rest.

2. Try going to bed and getting up at the same time. Resist the temptation to get up if you can't sleep. Lay in your bed until your set time arrives. There's a good chance you'll eventually doze off if you give it enough time.

3. Have a cup of water at your bedside. Drinking a glass of water first thing in the morning is a good way to get your day going. Aside from the fact we need water to survive, drinking lots of water has a major effect on your energy and brain function. Drinking some water early in the morning can also help your body flush out toxins and fire up your metabolism.