In Oren Klaff’s book, Pitch Anything, he
talks about the importance of eradicating neediness:
“If you talk to investment bankers, the pros that
make million dollar decisions almost daily, they’ll tell you – validation –
seeking behavior (neediness) is the number one deal killer.”
As
a young actor, I must have reeked of desperation as I entered casting rooms. When
I first came out of grad school my life seemed to hang in the balance depending
on how well an audition went. I spent hours prepping, regardless if the
audition was for a series regular or two lines on a procedural. I was maniacal
about my homework. And if the audition didn’t go exactly as I planned I was
devastated. I placed such high stakes on each and every audition that my nerves
were often a mess.
But
the older I got the more I realized the importance of wanting, but not needing.
I learned to give my best audition then go about my day knowing if it didn't work out there’d be plenty of other people who’d love to
work with me. Developing this mindset came from living a well-rounded life full
of other interests, rich relationships, and an empowering sense of self.
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